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Review – Couples Counselling
My husband and I were at a real crossroads and decided it was make or break as to whether we were going to stay together after more than 30 years. I googled local Counsellors and Paisley Counselling came up and that was how we found Kim. My husband was sceptical to say the least and so I wasn’t sure how it was all going to go. I got a really good vibe from Kim straight away, her approach was warm and welcoming as well as professional right from the outset. Not only have my husband and I got to a place we never thought we would, as individuals we have learned so much about ourselves. Kim was unbelievably perceptive throughout and just seemed to be on our wavelength. I decided to do some individual sessions in between the couple sessions and found them invaluable. So often her words of wisdom come into my mind when I needed them, tools that you can use on and on. My husband now has a completely different outlook on counselling thanks to Kim. She has been a tremendous support to us both and we absolutely recommend her without question. Thanks again Kim!!
Kim is friendly, puts you at ease, very wise and works to a structure with successful results. She asks the hard questions and hears what your saying, she conveys yours or your partners points if she feels one of you aren’t listening or indeed hearing. She builds bridges to allow dialogue and equips you with new tools that allow you both to know how to navigate stumbling blocks in your relationship. These tools can be referred to at home in times of strain. She gives you exercises that allow you both to understand each other better and yourself too. For a bit of context we came to Kim with a sofa bed on order, we arrived in her counselling room for our 1st appointment with two possibilities in our minds 1. We “find” each other again and feel re-connected and share a love that would allow us to provide our child a happy home environment or 2. We separate in the least destructive manner for our child and how was the best way to go about that for everyone involved, sort of like a mediation. We came to Kim having endured much trauma over the past 5 years. We had become very disconnected and we knew the way we were was a result of circumstances. We were just completely lost and exasperated and miserable. For the first few sessions we both cried and it was hard, but even after the very first session we both felt hopeful. Each session we felt more connected and we were confident in the relationship tools Kim had taught us to see us through rough patches. We worked with Kim on a weekly basis for roughly 3 months, our relationship is much stronger and we feel we share a lot of love for one another. Needless to say we cancelled the sofa bed order! We would highly recommend Kim for marriage counselling and we would not hesitate to book an appointment in future should we ever feel the need.
Mr & Mrs C
Kim has worked wonders for me and my partners relationship. We didn’t think we could salvage our relationship but after a lot of hard work and a couple months of sessions we are now the happiest we have ever been. Kim taught us different ways in how to express our feelings to one another without it ending in arguments. I would like to thank Kim for all the help she has given us and would highly recommend her services to anyone.
Review – Individual Counselling
When my marriage ended I (surprisingly and hard to believe, I know) felt a weight lift from my shoulders and looked forward to being surrounded with the love and warmth of my family and friends. I recall my colleague offering advice; ‘if you need someone to talk to I know of some very good counsellors I could put you in touch with.’ I welcomed the kind words but was perplexed as I was happy and (almost immediately) people were telling me I looked better and more content; a far cry from my subdued demeanour and sad eyes that had been on display for some time – though I wasn’t fully aware of these features. It goes to show that sometimes we really need to look in the mirror and face facts. I had made a brave decision and felt the benefits right away so, for me, counselling was completely unnecessary. After a planned year on my own without even thinking about finding love again I turned towards the prospect of meeting someone and starting a relationship again. I met an amazing man and we started dating. And that’s when it hit me… The dread…the negative thoughts…that overwhelming all consuming knowingness that things would come crashing down around me. My previous relationship had impacted me more than I could ever have imagined. I decided that speaking to someone might be a good idea after all, and thank goodness my Google search led me to Paisley Counselling…and Kim! Her welcoming manner and informal approach created a warm and relaxed environment, and her ability to encourage me to explore my past and myself – without even realising it – has enabled me to fully understand and appreciate the route causes of my insecurities and self-perception. Kim utilised a range of strategies during my time working with her and I now have a toolkit I can dip into whenever I have a wobble or feel that self-doubt creeping in. Her attentiveness and ability to listen without judgement and offer alternative ways of looking at things has been crucial for me. She truly helped me to unravel my inner conflict and put the pieces of my own little complex puzzle together. Kim is patient, consistent, honest and the type of person who sits side by side with you. She listens and never leads, and – most importantly – encourages you to choose your own path; make your own decisions and find your own truth. Among the few invaluable truths I realised during my time working with her, another one I learned was that she is everything a counsellor should be. Thank you Kim!!
I went to counselling absolutely “leaking” and falling apart. Kim was a great help! She listened well, empathized and gave me the tools necessary through her different counselling methods. I came out of counselling a different person! It is no exaggeration to say that counselling has literally been life changing. I am a new person with so much confidence and hope for the future. My patterns of thinking are so different and are now healthy. It was amazing to see the change in myself after a few sessions. I would highly recommend Kim!
I have found meetings with Kim very helpful. When I first arrived I felt like nothing is going to change the way I am feeling. I was hopeless and miserable but with Kim’s help I overcame my fears and I now understand how to fight the social anxiety and depression. Kim is really trustworthy and open person, during sessions I was feeling natural and supported. I am really glad that in time of need I decided to ask her for help.
I approached Kim after separating from my wife, who I had been with for over 20 years. I was aware that I was coping in the short term but sought counselling to help me understand not only recent events but other difficult, unresolved episodes in my life and their burden on my state of mind. Kim immediately made me feel at ease talking about emotional topics. She was simultaneously tactful and tenacious in getting to root causes, whilst offering tools to cope more proactively. She also helped me appreciate my own resilience and potential to change. I will be forever grateful to Kim for her friendly but challenging approach, insight and encouragement, and would recommend her to anyone in similar circumstances.
Kim helped me unravel a maze of thoughts that seemed overwhelming. She guided me to think clearly and asked the difficult questions. This grew my self awareness. Kim is very experienced and has many ‘tools’ in her toolkit and more importantly listens with compassion. I would recommend Kim if you’re at a place of feeling stuck or need someone with a listening ear who will give feedback and help self understanding.
When I first got in touch with Kim, I didn’t even know what I needed help with, I was in quite a state: extremely stressed and anxious, struggling at work and in relationships. I got in touch on recommendation from a family member, and it has been the best decision I’ve made for my own sanity, hands down. After around 4 or 5 months, my whole life seems brighter, problems that used to really hit me in my core, I can now see are issues I don’t need to pick up, they can be like water off a duck’s back and I can look forward to what happens next in life, instead of looking down to avoid tomorrow. I would urge anyone who feels like they are struggling to cope, even if they don’t quite know how to put it across to someone, to seek out paisley counselling. It has given me the tools I need to tackle the challenges I face, in a quiet and safe environment. I went into this expecting very little to change, and I couldn’t be more happy to have been proven wrong.
I was very sceptical about counselling and wasn’t expecting to get much out of it. Kim taught me some great coping techniques and how to put them into practise. She helped me build up the courage to face the world again and regain confidence in myself which at the time I wasn’t sure was possible.
Before I approached Kim I was a normal socially active 32 year old male, with a great girlfriend, good job and an interest in football…. who also happened to be suffering from low self confidence, self worth and esteem issues. I had attempted to live with these issues for as long as I can remember, almost accepting them as normal and doing my best to keep them hidden. However, deep down I knew that these issues were holding me back from achieving my potential. I didn’t want life to pass me by and for myself to wonder one day as an old man; why didn’t I try and do anything about this? Before I started counselling I never in a million years thought that I would end up sitting in a chair talking about difficult emotions, memories and subjects. I had preconceived ideas of who and why people go to counselling. How wrong I turned out to be. I turned up with nothing to lose and no expectations. Kim made me feel human and what I was going through was very normal. What I achieved in such a short space of time was so surprising. I went to Kim to improve my self confidence and become a more authentic and self assured version of myself. Well I am well on my way to achieving that. I have learned to be able to accept and control my anxieties and how to manage them. I now understand why I felt the way I did. I have now swapped old truths of my life for new truths. I have changed my way of thinking. I am now able to walk with my head up, with a smile on my face and a clear head. I can’t thank Kim enough and would recommend her to anyone. She made me feel at ease and I was able to talk open and honestly with her in a confidential environment. I am particularly hopeful that my message can be seen by other young men in there 20’s and 30’s who may be going through what I went through, who are hiding behind confidence and esteem issues and have a preconception of counselling. I would like them to know that Kim has potentially changed my life for the better in so many ways. Please be brave and give it a try.
Kim provided a safe environment for me to share my thoughts and feelings. She took me through visualisation and breathing exercises. These techniques allowed me to look at childhood experiences that were affecting my life as an adult. In doing this, the negative experiences I had as a child lost their power. I grew up feeling not good enough and pretty worthless. As an adult, certain situations triggered this feeling. Kim explained what was going on and guided me through visualisation exercises. By the end of the visualisation exercises, I felt a weight had lifted. I now believe that I am good enough and loveable. I would not hesitate in recommending Kim.
Working with Kim was the best thing I could’ve done for myself when it came to processing through years of repressed trauma and emotions. Before, when I’d feel overwhelmed, I’d emotionally shutdown, essentially going into survival mode and my physical health was suffering for it after so many years. Kim used a near laser focused method to help me discover and process through all my old coping mechanisms that weren’t helping anymore quickly and efficiently while making me feel completely safe the entire time. I received the tools to “feel what I feel” without having to shut down while still being able to handle a situation in the moment. I get to live my life more than just survive it and I’m beyond thankful to Kim for helping that become possible.
I came to Kim with a very specific goal – make it through a best man’s speech despite anxiety that felt crippling – but by the time we ended our sessions, that was just one small win against a backdrop of improvement. The ways she has changed my life for the better are almost immeasurable. She didn’t just teach me coping mechanisms for when things were bad, she also guided me towards a mindset that has made these mental roadblocks less likely in the first place. I no longer live in a state of worrying what my next panic will be about. I’ve gone from putting up barriers (“I can’t go for a new job, I’ll be too anxious”, etc) to confidently grabbing opportunities that I’d long-ago accepted I would never be able to go for. Personally too, her work on empathy and our discussions about how I approach my friends and loved ones has changed my whole approach to other people. I am a better husband now, a better friend, a better sibling. The help for anxiety I got from the NHS was indeed from well-meaning people, but the service Kim provided me is something on a whole other level. I have recommended her to others in my life because I know how transformative she has been for me. Our final session together felt like a graduation of sorts, where the tutor had become a genuine friend; I have since remarked to people that it’s a shame there’s not more wrong with me, because the therapeutic-relationship we had was so rewarding. If you or anyone close to you thinks they *might* benefit from her services (even if it’s just for something as simple as surviving a best man’s speech), I’d happily bet she can do more for you than you’re expecting.
I attended Kim’s counselling session for a few weeks at first my whole life was in turmoil and could see no light at the end of the tunnel but I am now in a positive place thanks to Kim as she gave my self worth back. Thanks, Kim
I approached Paisley Counselling and Kim after my partner and I had been discussing various issues affecting my life. It was suggested I should speak to a counsellor about where I was at and take it from there. I am so, so happy I did. When first going in I wasn’t sure what to expect, but after the first session, I knew I had made the right decision. Over the past few months, we were working with the Comprehensive Resource Model. I really felt comforted and reassured when exploring past issues that, not only had I been suppressing, but had also been affecting my mindset in day to day life. Facing fears and challenges didn’t seem so terrible, with a level of comfort and understanding that can only come from feeling safe and without judgement. Kim has been professional, friendly, encouraging and knowledgeable. Her passion is to help you to help yourself. Thanks from the bottom of my heart to Paisley Counselling and Kim.
Everyone needs help at some point in their life and Kim was the perfect person to guide me through a time when I felt like falling apart. Her wisdom and kindness taught me valuable lessons of how to deal with my mental health. I’m so greatfull to have had her as a safespace to learn more about myself and heal.
When I started counselling I had so many past struggles I wasn’t processing, and this was affecting my mental health. After a couple of months with Kim I have come to terms with the past and feel stronger as a person. I honestly feel I could deal with anything that is put my way, and that is down to Kim’s help and a lot of hard work and determination. To anyone who feels they need counselling I would highly recommend Kim, I am truly grateful for all she has done for me.
When I wasn’t feeling myself I knew that I needed to talk to someone professional. When I made the call to Kim and heard her calm and reassuring voice I knew I had made the right decision. We worked through my issues together, kim giving me the resources to face and overcome them. I found out so much more about myself and feel confident in a way I never knew I could. Kim was extremely knowledgeable, genuine, warm and kind – always. I didn’t feel judged by her ever and I felt she was with me every step of the way. I have and will continue to recommend Kim to anyone who thinks they need some help.
Have had three sessions with Kim went in with a determination to sort my problems out before I went which helps but still needed help to sort it out once and for all . Kim’s style of councilling amazed me how well it worked for me. I found out a lot about myself and why things where going wrong in my. I life felt more in charge of my life and happier after Kim’s help. I totally recommend her process all I can say is go in with a open mind and go with what Kim suggests – all clicked into place on third meeting.
Worked with Kim through a really difficult period of my life. She is a very genuine, caring person and with her help i am now doing much better.
I’ve been working with Kim for just over 8 months, dealing with anxiety that was affecting my every day life. I’m now able to deal with situations I couldn’t face before. For example, today I was able to go to the dentist and use the tools I learned at counseling to have a great appointment. I can’t believe how well it went. But there we go! The counseling I’ve received from Kim has literally affected and changed so many areas of my life for the better. So thankful!
I made more progress with Kim in ten weeks than I did with the NHS in ten years. My experiences with anxiety since working with Kim have been beyond what I thought was possible just months ago. I can’t recommend her services enough; they have literally changed my life for the better.
From our first meeting Kim put me at ease and made it easy to open up. She is extremely intuitive and knowledgeable . I was always amazed at how she could recall things from previous sessions with great ease. She has a fantastic way of helping you find your own answers from within rather than speculating. Many of the techniques Kim taught me I was able to use outwith my sessions and it really made a huge difference to how I responded to everyday situations. Kim has mastered the art of holding a perfect balance of support and encouragement with the ability to challenge you when it’s required and this was often needed with me! I have benefited immensely from the process and I can’t thank Kim enough for being part of my journey.
I have been to counselling sessions with Kim for just over six months. I have experienced care, compassion and understanding in our sessions, and this has allowed me to feel safe enough to identify and begin to deal with some of the most difficult challenges in my life. She has helped me realise how important it is to care for myself, and she has taught me techniques that help me make better choices when I’m having a tricky day. She is professional, humorous and kind. She has made me work hard, and doesn’t let me hide from what I need to do to or what I need to address. My sessions with Kim have been genuinely and positive life changing.
I started my journey when I first met Kim 4 months ago. During my initial meeting where we discussed my challenges and feelings I was at ease and had total trust and confidence in Kim’s techniques & knowledge. Over a number of sessions we discussed the root of these challenges and using Comprehensive Resource Model we got to the root cause and started to remove. Which in layman’s terms simply means that one is resourced sufficiently to enable you to go to the “root of the trauma” without being re-traumatised.
Each session was different from my previous as I was progressing through my journey, there is no pressure on how long this may last but I would say the more committed you are and willing to work and face your challenges with Kim’s support you can overcome anything. 4 months on I’m on a positive road where I have the confidence, techniques and drive to overcome many hurdles. I have learned so much about myself with the help of Kim and look forward to continuing my journey and can’t thank Kim enough for the life changing 4 months.